In August of 1999, while at a friend's house discussing relationships, Dr. Jim Honeycutt answered many questions the group posed. After a while, we realized that there were many people who might also benefit from a one-on-one session with Dr. Honeycutt. Suddently, I had an idea! I asked Dr. Honeycutt if he would be willing to provide the same kind of advice he was giving us on the internet. Without hesitation, Dr. Honeycutt offered his years of experience and knowledge to the project. This forum was the result. That was almost 4 years ago, and Dr. Honeycutt is still giving us advice. Despite a busy schedule that includes teaching at Louisiana State University, writing books, many trips and numerous television and radio interviews, he somehow manages to find the time to answer almost every question he as been asked. I would also like to point out that Dr. Honeycutt is not compensated for the effort and time he spends answering our questions. Dr. Honeycutt genuinely tries to help as many as he can. For all of this, I, Jeffery Lyons, founder of U.S. Web Providers, Inc. and AmericaMalls.com, and on behalf of the myriad of people who have benefited from his years of advice, would like to let everyone know how much we appreciate Dr. Honeycutt. * * * T H A N K S D R. J I M !!! * * *

1999
Date	Question
September 3, 1999	Dr. Honeycutt, how did you become interested in studying relationships?
September 3, 1999	In what ways has technology helped to increase and decrease relational satisfaction?
September 3, 1999	How important is money in producing happiness in marriage?
September 3, 1999	Last year my boyfriend of two years graduated from college, all of his job offers were located in other states, so at the behest of my mother I encouraged him to accept a job twelve hours away from Baton Rouge.
September 10, 1999	My friend at work is having an affair with a married man, plus she has a serious relationship with another man, how should I go about discussing this with her?
September 10, 1999	How do you manage long-distance friendships? What are the rules for maintaining them?
September 10, 1999	Define co-dependency in a relationship between a man and woman.
September 10, 1999	Is there a difference in the level of marital satisfaction for couples who purposefully decide never to have children?
September 17, 1999	Who has more vivid images of imagined sexual intercourse, males or females?
September 24, 1999	How different is being "in love" from "loving" someone?
October 1, 1999	I'm in love with a man …but for some reason, he doesn't want me. I was going through a divorce and I started seeing this guy.
October 1, 1999	Can life-long problems exist from touch deprivation as an infant as well as not becoming an affectionate person?
October 1, 1999	How do you apply your theories and research knowledge to your own marital relationship?
October 8, 1999	Which works better for a marriage selection, cognition or chemistry?
October 8, 1999	Why is that American women like to have things both ways; they want men to be sensitive and be treated like they are "ladies," yet when it's convenient for them, they want the man to be liberated.
October 8, 1999	I have a father who I would consider verbally abusive. He yelled, called us names, and broke things.
October 15, 1999	Is there a recommended time that a couple should date before they get married?
October 15, 1999	... I fell in love with this wonderful guy, [but] ... we've been apart for 6 months. He got into a near-fatal car wreck.
October 15, 1999	I recently ended a year long relationship with a girl that won't let go.
October 22, 1999	I've been "dating" a man for 4 years who lives in Texas and travels a lot.
October 22, 1999	What will I do when our son goes off to college next year? I will be lonely and want him to stay home the first year? What do you suggest?
October 22, 1999	I've been married almost 3 years. We fight constantly about everything.
October 22, 1999	... how does one go about meeting educated, attractive, funny, caring women?
October 29, 1999	My girlfriend recently broke up with me and moved to go to college. She said she loved me too much to keep going out with me.
October 29, 1999	Can birth control pills dramatically decrease one's interest in sex?
October 29, 1999	I'm 62 and have dated a 38 year old man for 1 year. He became irritated with me for sharing a problem we were having with a support group.
October 29, 1999	Could you explain or give some examples of what it means to be or not be "affirmed" in a marriage or relationship?
November 5, 1999	I'm planning a wedding soon and am having difficulty choosing a song in which to dance with my stepfather.
November 5, 1999	Why is my girlfriend so emotional and moody?
November 12, 1999	How often should I tell my girlfriend that I love her?
November 12, 1999	Eight years ago I met a girl who completely changed my life.
November 19, 1999	A "Thanks!" to Dr. Jim and some testimonials.
November 26, 1999	Dr. Jim's comments on the "Holiday Blues."
November 26, 1999	My friend's child is a brat. He misbehaves all the time. Should I tell her how he is a brat when she's not around?
December 3, 1999	My in-laws ask me to pressure my husband to do things he does not want to do.
December 3, 1999	My girlfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago because we went to different colleges.
December 17, 1999	I would like my boyfriend to pay me for sex, but everytime I bring up the subject, he freaks out.
December 17, 1999	My neighbor is married to a younger woman who was painting the other day. She was wearing a loose shirt that revealed her breast when she bent over. When my wife would be in the room, she made it a point to hold the shirt when she bent over. My question is, do you think this woman has the hots for me?
December 17, 1999	I would like to become intimate with my friend, but she has never exhibited any signs of being gay. What should I do to get her into bed?

2000
Date	Question
January 7, 2000	I think that my best friend is sleeping with my wife. I would like to get the truth out in the open, but I don't want to lose my friend. What do I do?
January 7, 2000	I'm a 34 year-old single, professional female who wants to have kids and get married. I've haven't been ready to commit.
January 14, 2000	What do you do when you know your spouse is acting crazy but refuses to seek or accept any type of help whatsoever?
January 21, 2000	...I think that office romances, if they don't work out, can be hard to overcome. Am I being too cautious?
January 21, 2000	Do you think it is really true that people who are married for many years actually begin to resemble each other?
January 28, 2000	I love my husband, but he's such a negative person that he complains about everything.
February 4, 2000	My friend is constantly going on about how he much he hates a friend of mine. After a while, I finally have come to the conclusion that he must actually like her.
February 4, 2000	I've come to the conclusion that I have major issues with relationships and commitment.
February 11, 2000	When a relationship undergoes the threat of separation but the two involved decide to give it another shot and work things out, in your experience, how often is this successful?
February 11, 2000	Last year I received a call from someone I dated in college... Both of us are in marriages that are not loving, though I can't say either marriage is really bad.
February 18, 2000	I had a child at 19 and married the father after a few years because I felt it was the right thing to do since I grew up without a mother.
February 25, 2000	Dr. Jim's article on "What husbands can learn from their wives in order to have a happy marriage given the modern era."
March 10, 2000	I recently was heartbroken after a recent divorcee was not willing to commit.
March 10, 2000	Who fall in love faster, men or women?
March 17, 2000	I find that many women are materialistic and superficial.
March 24, 2000	My boyfriend is three years younger than I am... Is this relationship subject to unncessary problems because of the age difference?
April 7, 2000	The 7 Principles of Good Marriage - Principle 1, 2 & 3
April 28, 2000	The 7 Principles of Good Marriage - Principle 4, 5 & 6
May 12, 2000	The 7 Principles of Good Marriage - Principle 7
May 19, 2000	When is a good age to talk to my son about sex? He's 12. How much do I tell him?
May 19, 2000	My boyfriend and I have been best friends around 3 1/2 months before we started dating.
May 26, 2000	Why is it that nice guys always finish last?
June 2, 2000	How do you handle an obsession with another man, even though you think you are happily married and you want to do the right thing, but the obsession won't go away?
June 9, 2000	I recently met someone whom got right up in my face when he talked, and he kept touching me the whole time.
June 16, 2000	My boyfriend and I have been living together for two years. He doesn't desire intercourse but about once a month.
June 30, 2000	Dr. Jim's article: "What happened to the attraction?"
July 7, 2000	My fiancee and I seem to be on a downward spiral. Our wedding is a year away and I am beginning to wonder if we are making the right decision.
July 14, 2000	A list of topics that [Dr. Jim] gives to partners in relationships.
August 4, 2000	Dr. Jim's article about the emotional intelligence of husbands.
August 18, 2000	My girlfriend is moving away to a college that is four hours away from me.
August 25, 2000	I was nice and sensitive to my girlfriend. Then I found out she was cheating on me with a scumbag who is arrogant, rude, and obnoxious.
September 1, 2000	Being that social-learning theory states that we learn our gender through environment, I am curious as to how different environments affect gender outcomes.
September 1, 2000	How is gender learned and why or how does [get] it mixed up?
September 8, 2000	Do you believe that women and men who have a great friendship relationship should discontinue this because one of them gets in a serious love relationship and the new person is jealous and wants them to end the friendship?
September 15, 2000	My friend at work is having an affair with a married man, plus she has a serious relationship with another man, how should I go about discussing this with her?
September 15, 2000	How do you manage long-distance friendships? What are the rules for maintaining them?
September 15, 2000	Define co-dependency in a relationship between a man and woman.
September 15, 2000	My husband and I have been married for 7 years? We are still trying to decide if we should ever have children.
September 29, 2000	What causes people in relationships to have breakdowns in communication?
October 6, 2000	How can I increase my self-awareness and my relationship with my friends or the people with whom I interact?
October 20, 2000	My question is, how can I get her back?
October 27, 2000	Can men and women just be friends?
November 3, 2000	I've always been told that the older you are when you marry, the more likely that the marriage will last.
November 3, 2000	I seem to have a problem with many of my relationships with women.
November 10, 2000	...he told her she had to loose weight and give up drinking and smoking in order for them to date.
November 17, 2000	Three years ago I met my girlfriend. She was still married and contemplating divorce.
December 1, 2000	There's this kid who I am crazy for, who acted as if he's crazy for me.
December 8, 2000	She has always felt all men cheat and she is very suspicious of this boyfriend, even though he has never done anything to make her not trust him.
December 15, 2000	I have been dating this guy... he dated a girl for 5 years and they just broke up this summer, she is still calling him.
December 15, 2000	My roommate is crazy about this guy and it seems like he likes her to, but he has a girlfriend.
December 22, 2000	I just broke up with my boyfriend because I found out he cheated on me.

2001
Date	Question
January 12, 2001	I would consider this girl and I friends, and nothing more.
January 19, 2001	...the 6 different types of love. Are these personality issues? Can people change the type of love they give?
January 26, 2001	My 31 year-old boyfriend of 11 years has binged on everything from work, drugs, toys (bikes, jet skis), alcohol… you name it.
January 26, 2001	...we got off to a rough start in terms of trust and although we still distrust each other a bit, things have improved.
February 2, 2001	I went off and filled that time with other same-sex friends.
February 9, 2001	...the relationship wasn't going anywhere and it got monotonous and predictable.
February 16, 2001	Can you fall out of love?
February 23, 2001	I met a man over Christmas. I'm 42 and he's 41. He has not been divorced quite a year.
March 2, 2001	I love my boyfriend, and in many ways we are very compatible, [but]...
March 9, 2001	I have tried everything short of counseling to put a failed relationship behind me...
March 16, 2001	I work near a guy that I'm attracted to.
March 16, 2001	This guy that I am intensely crazy about has a girlfriend of 4 years.
April 6, 2001	I've acquired a negative stereotype of beautiful women.
April 13, 2001	Why is it that people can fall so madly in love with someone and then fall out of love so fast?
April 20, 2001	I am a PhD student at a university. I am working on commercial friendships.
April 27, 2001	I'm in my 40s and divorced. It's been years since I dated and I need to know THE RULES!
May 4, 2001	Why is it that my boyfriend of 6 months does not tell me that he loves me as much as I tell him even though I KNOW that he does?
May 11, 2001	Why do some people find the need to fight for no reason?
May 18, 2001	I'm a 48 year old widow... I've been dating a wonderful man for 3-1/2 years.
May 25, 2001	We've only been dating for about 4 months now and last weekend we had our first fight.
June 1, 2001	I've come to the conclusion that I have some issues with relationships and commitment.
June 8, 2001	I've been in a relationship for over 3 years. I'm 42, she's 40.
June 15, 2001	I have some concerns about him being the "one." I'm young and about to start college.
June 22, 2001	I've been married for 3 yearss and during this time have learned that my husband has cheated on me repeatedly...
July 6, 2001	I have been married for over one year and it has been really great, except for one thing.
July 27, 2001	I'm 19, single, and want to find someone to love and someone to love me back.
August 10, 2001	I met a divorced man 6 months ago. He's been divorced for 8 years so he says.
August 24, 2001	My boyfriend is constantly jealous. He always accuses me of having a roving eye.
August 31, 2001	I have made the mistake of telling my partner things that I have done in the past and in past relationships.
September 7, 2001	Is a man capable of having a platonic, best friend relationship with a woman?
September 14, 2001	My friend has been in a relationship with her boyfriend for three years. She loves him but isn't sure if he is "the one".
September 14, 2001	My boyfriend and I have an "open" relationship and he knows that I'm a sex provider.
September 21, 2001	I have been in the same relationship with my boyfriend for almost five years.
September 28, 2001	My husband of five years has had an affair for the last two of them.
September 28, 2001	My boyfriend has a secretary that has worked for him 20 years.
October 12, 2001	You helped me find a way to deal with my personal problems regarding being rejected by women in the fall of 1999.
October 26, 2001	I always tell my girlfriend that I love her.
November 2, 2001	Two Saturdays ago, I was staying the night at my boyfriend's house and someone called my cell phone at 2:30am.
November 2, 2001	My boyfriend is graduating from college in December. He doesn't know yet what he is going to do afterwards.
November 9, 2001	I have been married for 13 years and during those years my husband has not been able to wear his wedding ring because of safety reasons.
November 16, 2001	I just started dating a new guy about 3 weeks ago. He is the sweetest guy I have ever dated so far.
November 30, 2001	What is needed and important in a spouse relationship?
November 30, 2001	I'm a college student who has been in many relationships since ninth grade. These have lasted from 2 months to a year.
November 30, 2001	My stepson was supposed to get married on October 13, 2001.
December 7, 2001	I am moving in with three males.
December 7, 2001	I'm 22 years old and madly in love with my fiancee whom I will be marrying in June.
December 14, 2001	I have been in a relationship with the same person for about 4 years off and on.
December 14, 2001	Jim, I started dating this guy my junior year of high school.
December 21, 2001	My girlfriend is moving to California in May.

2002
Date	Question
January 4, 2002	My girlfriend of 6 years, living together for 4, had been telling me she was unhappy about my unwillingness to commit.
January 25, 2002	I have been married for 11 years and am extremely unhappy. This Christmas was the worst.
February 1, 2002	I am 29 years old and have been married for 7 months. I met my husband at work 6 years ago and we still work together.
February 1, 2002	I am carrying out a psychology project with the aim of proving or disproving the "matching hypotheses" theory.
February 8, 2002	My ex-husband and I are considering getting back together.
February 22, 2002	It's hard for me to make a commitment because I don't want to go through the pain of growing close only to see it end.
March 15, 2002	My next-door neighbors are a Hispanic family from Ecuador.
March 15, 2002	I broke up with my boyfriend because he was not affectionate.
March 22, 2002	After a 20-year marriage, I divorced with the intent to simply live independently, enjoy my adult children and really dig in to my career.
April 5, 2002	My girlfriend broke up with me because she said I was boring, too predictable, and too nice.
April 12, 2002	I may be wrong, but it seems that it is harder for men to live by themselves than women.
April 19, 2002	My girlfriends constantly date men with money.
April 26, 2002	My girlfriend recently broke up with me and moved to another city for a new job.
May 3, 2002	Seven Principles of a Good Marriage - Principle 1, 2 & 3
May 24, 2002	Seven Principles of a Good Marriage - Principle 4 & 5
May 31, 2002	Seven Principles of a Good Marriage - Principle 6
June 7, 2002	Seven Principles of a Good Marriage - Principle 7
June 14, 2002	Why my boyfriend appears to be insensitive to my emotional needs.
June 28, 2002	Why does music help when people argue?
July 12, 2002	Recently, my girlfriend moved out and moved in with her sister.
July 26, 2002	Article about behavioral indicators of relational commitment.
August 2, 2002	Why is it that after a conflict or argument, the level of passion or amorous behavior tends to increase?
August 19, 2002	I am getting married in September. I have been estranged from my father.
August 30, 2002	Married couple's interview.
September 13, 2002	I have dated this woman for over a year. She became irritated with me for sharing a problem we were having with a support group.
September 13, 2002	Could you explain or give some examples of what it means to be or not be "affirmed" in a marriage or relationship?
October 16, 2002	Reprint of Dr. Jim's article on commitment.
October 23, 2002	My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now, and I am beginning to get a little bit nervous.
November 13, 2002	After dating for a little over a year my boyfriend and I broke up.

2003
Date	Question
January 10, 2003	My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now, and I am beginning to get a little bit nervous.
January 17, 2003	I’ve been seeing this guy for nearly two years. He says he still isn’t ready to have a girlfriend!
January 17, 2003	I've been dating my long distance boyfriend for about a year.
January 24, 2003	I have a friend whom I feel very close to.
January 24, 2003	I have been married to a girl for 2 years who was previously married to an abusive and controlling loser.
February 28, 2003	A year ago I started a new job. I hit it off with a co-worker there right away and we have a great relationship.
March 07, 2003	After a 20 yr. marriage, I divorced with the intent to simply live independently, enjoy my adult children and really dig in to my career.